About “sorry for being a burden”

Raw link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TCUPJHXMQkQ

I hiked and talked philosophy for a bit more than an hour. I covered a broad set of topics related to the expression “sorry for being a burden”. An overview:

  • We start feeling like a burden when we are coping with some difficult situation. We think that others are doing well, while we are not.
  • We do not want to bring others to our misery, so we avoid them.
  • Not wanting to externalise our negativity in this way comes from a good starting point: we consider the wellness of others.
  • An explanation of how this apparent altruism is biased both against us and against the others. We think we are worthless while they are impeccable.
  • When we think we are a burden, we develop a sense of egocentrism even though we do not want to. We do it by obsessing about our condition.
  • Our obsession turns into a misplaced sense of exceptionalism as we think we are special in our agony: “I am special because I am the only one who suffers”.
  • There is a “transmission mechanism” by which this ostensible burden can be distributed. Explanation of how this relates to the communicative aspect of the human condition.
  • We cannot opt out of our humanity. To be sorry for being human is pointless. We always communicate.
  • When we communicate with others, we open ourselves to their positivity. In general, we remove the obstacles that worsen our condition.
  • Explanation of moderation, of finding a middle way between the extremes.
  • More comments on the perversion of self-hatred that masquerades as altruism.
  • Practical ways to gradually escape from the overthinking loop. We break the cycle by acting. Also comment on one’s physical condition and how idle energy is contributing to the problem.
  • We live in a world where we forget to be human sometimes and are absorbed in our little bubble—practical step to avoid that.
  • Example with how we do not control how others perceive our messages and why we should not blame our self or them.
  • Don’t judge and be patient.